At some point, most guys start to get interested in girls and vice versa. The first kiss comes, you float in seventh heaven with your first boyfriend or girlfriend. Much changes, however, when the former boys and girls grow up.
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Then they are confronted with many problems that they mostly did not know from their youth. Raising children, money problems, monotony or jealousy – the list of things that can crumble a partnership is long. On the internet platform reddit Couples therapists were asked what warning signals might indicate a failing relationship. There are ten answers:
1. Mattrockj: “If both partners act very independently of each other, this is the first important sign for me that the marriage is about to fail. As soon as I find out that a couple does many things separately, e.g. applying for a car loan without the other’s knowledge or planning trips without discussing it with the other, I know that the couple will soon be over. “
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2. NEM3S1S: “If one or both partners cannot honestly talk about their love past, so do not say openly with many people they had intercourse with before or how many relationships they had.”
3. FallenKnightGX: “Lack of communication. When a partner is talking about a problem, even a minor one, listen. ‘Small problems’ that are not addressed interfere with communication, because then trust is also destroyed – the trust that the partner is listening and reacting to you. “
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4th TiredMold: “I am a relationship therapist. One of the most noticeable red flags I see when working with a new couple is when they have completely forgotten the good of the relationship, the good times. “
5. crode080: “When a couple has made a like-you-me-so-me-you agreement. For example, ‘I cheated on you so you can spend the night with someone else.’ Or: ‘I broke your trust and took drugs. For that you can go out one night and do whatever you want. This behavior undermines trust and increases the pain. “
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6th NEM3S1S: “When the wife has a close relationship with another man or the husband has a close relationship with another woman and the other spouse does not like that person. It’s the old ‘he / she is just a friend’. Even if it doesn’t lead to an affair, such a situation usually creates unnecessary stress that destroys a relationship. “
7th ladyledylidy: “When I see a couple in which one or both partners are trying to change something fundamental about the other person.”
8th. milksteaknjellybean: “When one – especially young – partner is completely dependent on the other – financially as well as emotionally. These are usually young women, sometimes also young men, who do not work, have no children, stay home all day, have no friends or hobbies, and otherwise only spend time with their spouse. This is very unhealthy and a big warning sign. Always ends in a painful and chaotic separation. “
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9. NEM3S1S: “Spouses who don’t sleep in one bed and have no good reason to do so. It would be understandable if this didn’t happen for health reasons or because of the job, for example when working in shifts. But if one spouse just doesn’t feel like going to bed next to the other, that’s not healthy. A lack of intimacy, whether sexual or not, leads to the fact that both grow apart. “
10. crode080: “When there is too much control on one side. I often deal with people who have to send their partner pictures where they have to hold up a certain number of fingers or otherwise have to prove that the picture was just taken. That is abuse. “
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This is just a selection of many warning signals that could be a sign of a partnership that is coming to an end. Of course, one should keep in mind that couples, like people, are unique and don’t function in exactly the same way. In addition, the warning signals mentioned are of course no substitute for professional and individual advice for couples. The following are links to other interesting articles and galleries on this topic:
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